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  A practical lesson on shunning.

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today i decided to visit a friend of mine who i met when she was my study.

  (she has no intentions of making a commitment, but still continues studying with old pioneer 'friends' of mine.

  well it just so happens that these 2 sisters were there.

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  strawberry cake

  Thanks for all your support.
  
  It's so weird I can hardly believe it's happening, but it is.
  
  If my family did this to me, I think I would be physically sick. How awful this must be for those whose family have rejected them.
  
  I feel so very sad that my 2 boys still go and even though they say they will not shun us, they have not stood up for us or even told the elders that they were wrong. I know they are trapped, but it undermines us so.
  
  I feel that the elders are smug,knowing they have our children.
  One elder even directed the boys to an article on how to shun family.
  
  Today, I feel nauseous!
  
  xxx SC.
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  A practical lesson on shunning.

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today i decided to visit a friend of mine who i met when she was my study.

  (she has no intentions of making a commitment, but still continues studying with old pioneer 'friends' of mine.

  well it just so happens that these 2 sisters were there.

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  strawberry cake

  Today I decided to visit a friend of mine who I met when she was my study.(She has no intentions of making a commitment, but still continues studying with old pioneer 'friends' of mine.)
  Well it just so happens that these 2 sisters were there.
  
  Knowing full well that the rules say they must shun me;determined not to follow their rules,I said hello.
  Well right there, in front of their study, they blank me. I say hi again and asked them what was up. One of the sisters, who had been one of my closest 'friends' continued to blank me.
  I decided it best to go and said goodbye to everyone, ignoring the shunning.
  
  Later I phoned my ex study friend. I told her that she has had a good lesson on shunning. She agreed.
  
  I'm surprised she still studies, as she says shunning is wrong and doesn't agree with the blood issue. Indeed she would have died after childbirth if she had followed there guide.
  
  Anyway, I hope this shows her what being a JW means.
  
  xxx SC
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  what does being a parent mean to you? my definition

  by burningbridges in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  being a parent means asking for the wing out of the kentucky fried chicken basket just because you want your family to get the best pieces.. .

  being a parent means watching traffic through your side mirrors and your child through the rear view mirror of your car because your afraid she'll cough on her crackers or even just bob her head to the music and you don't want to miss it.

  it means getting light headed blowing up a whole house full of balloons just because it will make her smile.. .

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  strawberry cake

  Being a parent (of a teenager) means hugging them(through gritted teeth), the day after they told you to get stuffed!
  xxx SC
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  I'm not good association......

  by Switch in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been away from jwd for a month or so.

  i've just been busy in life and am trying to rebuild, or should i say, make new friendships but it is slow-going.

  missinglink and i haven't been to any meetings since april and have no plans in going back.

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  strawberry cake

  So sorry you are going through this. This is why it's a cult. These people are brainwashed....as we were once.
  
  Thank goodness, we have the support of each other on this forum
  
  xxx SC
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  The elders came last night and i stood my NEW ground!!! be proud!

  by New light for you in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so yes, the brothers came for "encouragement" and of course, my husband is out of town on business... so it was me and the kids.. so i did let them in, i like these brothers...these are some things we discussed.... 1. i went over how that stupid "obey" email got all this started, got me to divulge to my girlfriend how i was feeling about the whole religion.

  about how at the end of the call she said that she can't associate with me anymore, and then right after that call/ 30seconds later while i'm crying a pioneer called and asked "do you consider yourself one of jeh witnesses anymore??

  " and i thought that was crazy for someone to try to trap me when i was sitting crying on the phone, upset with the last call... i told them that for all purposes i am already dfed since noone will talk to me anymore, and only one friend called to see what happened, everyone else just listened to the gossip of whatever spread, and wrote me off even though i'm technically in good standing.

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  strawberry cake

  Well done!!!
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  My story

  by Newborn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear all, thank you for your warm welcome!

  this is my story in short (pls excuse wrong spellings, english is not my native tongue and that it still became quite long).. i'm 34 and was born into the truth by parents who in their turn were baptist in young age.

  i have one older sister who is currently serving at bethel with her husband and a younger brother who never embraced the truth (which was my big sorrow for many years).

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  Welcome Newborn
  
  ....I've never felt more happy and free as now and are even in love again but will take it very slow. I'm still young and hope I've many happy years in front of me.
  
  So glad you're getting out of this 'hogwash'. You can now live the real life.
  
  xxx SC
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  Did you find worldly people as bad as the JW's made them out to be??

  by karter in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as a jw we were always told worldly people were bad always out for what they could get out of you.

  as for me iv'e made some good friends not anything as bad as the jw's said they woul'd be.

  what about you ?????????

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  strawberry cake

  Last night I went out to dinner with work colleagues, I found them friendly, accepting and a lot of fun. They were very polite. One teacher was off to Malaysia to teach. The head had just done a charity cycle. All spoke with a lot of integrity about their students.
  
  I have been to dinner with some JWs and found them very haughty,complaining or very patronising to the restaurant staff. Looking down on the 'worldly' waiters/waitresses.
  
  Also they mainly quoted scriptures at you, moaned that they had their watchtower/hours to do or complained about brothers/sisters/elders. I also found them false and overbearing at times. Sometimes they would become very loud and raucous. Some would turn up and then say they've already eaten at home, so only ordered desert. It was so embarrassing. Then there would be a fuss about the bill.
  
  My husband, who is a musician said they would embarrass him when they came to his gigs. He wondered why they couldn't just act normally.
  
  Answer...They are not normal.
  
  xxx SC
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  Headed/****** (town) ********( name ) congregation of Jehovahs Witnesses

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my husband and i just received this letter from our old congregation.

  we refused a recent request for a visit..... .

  dear **** and ****** .

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  strawberry cake

  Thanks for all your responses
  
  [email protected] did mention to the elder that called that I don't consider myself a JW anymore, as I disagree with them. I thought he would note this down. I also asked him to just let us leave quietly without need of an announcement.
  
  This is the letter my husband wants to send.
  
  
  
  
  
  Thank you for your letter of 13th July re- ‘confusion for the brothers and sisters.’.
  
  I have to say that I have not experienced any problems in my conversations with brothers and sisters since leaving ******* Congregation. Most people know we have left and if anyone enquires as to why, my response is that we have both left, but I don’t wish to talk about it, thus enabling the conversation to move on to more mundane matters.
  
  Both ***** and I have continued to be friendly to those that we meet from time to time, and have no ill-feeling towards anyone in the congregation.
  
  I would have thought that an announcement to the congregation of the nature suggested in your letter would actually make it more difficult for those that wish to talk to us, as we would then be viewed in similar light to someone that was disfellowshipped. I know that this is a common practice within the Organization, but it strikes me more as being a way of discrediting those that wish to leave.
  
  If anyone in the congregation is confused, I would have thought that the continual shifting sands of ‘past’ and ‘present’truth would be enough to cause that, without us doing anything. In taking the name Jehovah as it’s title, the Organisation has a heavy responsibility to get things right, otherwise they actually bring that name into disrepute. Personally I have too much respect for God to continue peddling ‘duff’ information to innocent people.
  
  
  Yours
  
  
  
  
  
  
  P.S
  
  If you do decide to make an announcement, I would be grateful if you would show us the courtesy of informing us before hand, for the sake of those members of my family who are still attending the meetings.
  
  Thank you.
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  Headed/****** (town) ********( name ) congregation of Jehovahs Witnesses

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my husband and i just received this letter from our old congregation.

  we refused a recent request for a visit..... .

  dear **** and ****** .

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  strawberry cake

  My husband and I just received this letter from our old congregation. We refused a recent request for a visit.....
  
  Dear **** and ******
  
  I was sorry that it was not possible to follow up **** (elder)call with a visit, although I can understand that at present it would seem unnecessary and of little purpose to you.
  
  It has been a disappointment to me that you no longer consider yourselves part of the congregation and one of Jehovah's Witnesses. This has led to some confusion for your brothers and sisters when they meet up with you, or if they inquire from others about your welfare.
  
  It must be difficult for you both as well, but I think it would be best for the congregation to hear a brief announcement, saying that you do not wish to be viewed as associating with Jehovah's Witnesses.
  
  Should I be mistaken in any way, do please let me know. We at ******* would dearly love to have you both share fellowship with us again in our worship of Jehovah.
  
  Anticipating your reply
  
  Your brother
  
  **** *******
  
  So the shunning will be complete soon.
  
  I've stopped caring, but my husband wants to answer this letter,exposing their excuse for a complete shunning of us.
  
  Is there any point?
  
  
  xxx SC
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  what was the one sound bite or comment that helped you see the light?

  by siy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this was a few years ago now, i was on the work one day with an elders elder.. you now the type!.

  & he said this to me me (now i would love to know if you heard this one if its from a wt mag).

  "how you are viewed by others (& so treated) is a reflection of how god views you".

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  strawberry cake

  'Keep up with the present truth'
  
  XXX SC